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To Be Interesting, Have Some Interests

How do you answer this question, “What do you do in your spare time?” No doubt you’ve been asked it a time or two, or twelve. That question is a signal that the person asking it wants to know more about you, besides what you do for a living and where you’re from. The answer to that question should be something that lights you up, shares what you’re passionate about in life. Boil it down, your date wants to know how interesting your interests are.

Please, do not reply, “I don’t know. Just hang out I guess.” An answer like that can let the air out of your tires real quick. But what if it’s the truth? What if that’s all there is to say because that’s all you do? If that’s true, then it’s time to make some changes.

Here are 4 steps you can take to have an attention grabbing answer next time you’re asked…

  1. Turn off your TV (and your computer, too.)
    The TV and internet give you unprecedented access to news, information, and entertainment.  But by staying plugged in, you run the risk of living vicariously through someone else’s experiences.  If you spend most of your time surfing the cyber-waves, turn off the machines and break the spectator habit.  Watching from the sidelines may seem safe and comfortable, but it’s far healthier and more satisfying to be an active participant in your life.
  2. Revive old pursuits and passions.
    Remember back a few years to the time you were growing up.  What were the things you could spend hours or days doing, just for the fun of it?  Was it drawing?  Dance?  Taking pictures?  A sport?  Chances are you’d still have fun doing it if you gave yourself permission to try.  Or maybe you’ll remember something you always dreamed of doing, but never got around to it.  Point is, it might be time to renew your lost love affair with a particular interest.
  3. Take a class.
    Not sure where to find that special spark?  Go back to school one or two evenings a week.  Resist the urge to be practical – just have fun and expand your horizons.  Learn to speak a foreign language, scuba dive, basket weaving, or ballroom dance.  The list is nearly endless.  If one subject fails to excite you, try another.
  4. Volunteer.
    Perhaps you’d be happiest serving meals at a homeless shelter, giving tours at a local zoo, or finding homes for abondoned animals.  There is no shortage of organizations that would be happy to oblige you.  Few things make you more interesting, and impressive, than dedicating yourself to a worthwhile cause.

So, what are your thoughts?  Will it upend your life to get out of the house in search of your passion?  You bet!  But as Mark Twain once said, “Why not go out on a limb?  That’s where the fruit is.”

For the full article from eharmony, go here.

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