Why do I take everything so personally? I seem to take everything that everyone does as a hit against me, then I go sit in a corner and cry (really it’s laying on my bed and crying). I didn’t get a job I applied, therefore I’m a failure. I didn’t get invited to go out with friends, therefore they hate me. A boy I have a crush on doesn’t like me back, therefore I’m unlovable. Guys in general seem to not find me attractive (at least no one pursues me), therefore I’m dually unlovable. Why is it so hard for me to accept things the way they are and not take them so personally against myself? Isn’t it enough that I am a child of God and that He loves and accepts for just the way I am?
I was curious what the difference was between emo and angry people. So I thought I’d do a little search online for some answers. Unfortunately, my search didn’t make it past Wikipedia.com. Read the info below. If you know me, and you know how I’ve been acting lately, and you have some insight, please share.
“Emo is a somewhat ambiguous, controversial slang term most frequently used to describe a fashion or subculture which is usually defined to have roots in punk fashion and subculture, as well as some attributes of gothic fashion and subculture.
More specifically, “when referring to a person’s personality and attitude, most definitions of emo hold that an “emo person” is candid about their emotions, sensitive, shy, introverted, broken-hearted, glum, and often quiet. Emo personality is also often connected with writing poetry, which addresses confusion, depression, loneliness, and anger, all resulting from the world’s inability to understand the author. Emo poetry uses a combination of any of: a highly emotional tone, stream of consciousness writing, a simple (ABAB) or nonexistent rhyme scheme, references to the flesh, especially the heart, heavy use of dark or depressing adjectives, concern over the mutability of time and/or love, and disregard for punctuation, grammar, and/or spelling. Themes such as life is pain are common.
“Some definitions of emo hold that typical “emo persons” are likely to inflict self-injury, most often by means of cutting, burning, or otherwise mutilating themselves. Some assert that it is cool within the emo subulture to pretend to be suicidal and self-harm, or that participants self-harm purely for personal enjoyment.” (1)
“Anger is a common emotional (physiological and psychological) response to a perceived threat to self or important others, present, past, or future. The threat may appear to be real or imagined. Anger is often a response to the perception of threat due to a physical conflict, injustice, negligence, humiliation or betrayal among other contentions.
“The expression of anger can be through active or passive behaviors. In the case of “active” emotion the angry person “lashes out” verbally or physically at an intended target. When anger is a “passive” emotion it is characterized by silent sulking, passive-aggressive behavior (hostility) and tension.” (2)
So which category do I fall at this moment in time with recent emotionalism? I don’t think I’m either. Maybe I’m feeling out of odds with myself lately, but I don’t believe I’m angry. And I really don’t think I’m emo, I just wanted to compare the two.
I get a daily e-mail from Daily Candy. And today they had a link to a website called Top Tips For Girls. Check it out, it’s a pretty cool website. Have you ever wondered How to Be Happy, How to Polish a Handbag, or How to Solve Bad Breath? Well, this site has tips that readers submit for all to read. I highly recommend bookmarking the page!
1. Faith is the ability to not panic.
2. If you worry, you didn’t pray. If you prayed, don’t worry.
3. As a child of God, prayer is kind of like calling home every day.
4. Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape.
5.When we get tangled up in our problems, be still. God wants us to be still so He can untangle the knot.
6. Do the math. Count your blessings.
7. God wants spiritual fruit, not religious nuts.
8. Dear God: I have a problem. It’s me.
9. Silence is often misinterpreted, but never misquoted.
10. Laugh every day, it’s like inner jogging.
11. The most important things in your home are the people.
12. Growing old is inevitable, growing up is optional.
13. There is no key to happiness. The door is always open. Come on in.
14. A grudge is a heavy thing to carry.
15. He who dies with the most toys is still dead.
16. We do not remember days, but moments. Life moves too fast, so enjoy your precious moments.
17. Nothing is real to you until you experience it, otherwise it’s just hearsay.
18. It’s all right to sit on your pity pot every now and again. Just be sure to flush when you are done.
19. Surviving and living your life successfully requires courage. The goals and dreams you’re seeking require courage and risk-taking. Learn from the turtle, it only makes progress when it sticks out its neck.
20. Be more concerned with your character than your reputation. Your character is what you really are, whereas your reputation is merely what others think you are.
No matter the storm, when you are with God, there’s always a rainbow waiting. Leave gentle fingerprints on the soul of another for the angels to read. I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I lived just the length of it, I want to have lived the width of it as well. If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it. Happy moments, praise God. Difficult moments, seek God. Quiet moments, worship God. Painful moments, trust God. Every moment, thank God.